My husband has a family violence charge and violation of protection order. First offense. other then old theft charges But online it says 2 felonies and a misdemeanor. How long am I looking at. And when am I allowed to see him and can I write him?

The old charges are the problem. The judge will look at priors and that this offender apparently doesn't take the protection order seriously. He could sit for a while with no bail before they even determine what they are looking to offer him. Please remember we are just guessing from the limited information in the question above.