try calling the facility and ask to speak to the chaplain
Currently I have a roll model that is facing a few months in jail and I wondered if it would be a appropriate or not to send a letter or if they would find it odd. What do you think I should do?
Your "roll model" is hurting now and probably a little embarrassed to hear from you. BUT, we are in favor of reaching out in times like these. If your instinct is to contact them, then follow that. Your sincerity and willingness to initiate communication is a great thing.
Fear is a big part of how every inmate deals with their time. Fear of losing support is real and it makes many inmates anxious as it is often tied to finanacial support. The anxiety leads to paranoia and before you know it, there are accusations and fights on the phone that will make both of you miserable. Since communication is limited, it's hard to keep the intimacy and feelings going strong without significant effort. The isolation that the inmate experiences...Read more
Of course you should be concerned and it is to be expected, from both your perspectives. He is wondering what you are doing, thinks the worst even if you have never given an inclination that you'd stray. It's natural, but it will take a Herculean effort on both of your parts to keep it going. Give him his space for a bit, stop peppering him with questions. He's in prison, he's getting punished - do not pile on with your...Read more
Thank you " ask an inmate" I'm going to write to my friend in Alaska and just wait and see , we had a good bond but I just can't give up on him thank you again
you are welcome!! good luck :)
no, inmates are entitled to privacy too
Being in a relationship with someone you can't actually BE in a relationship with is a maddening process that rarely makes it through the bid if it's more than a few years. The inmate has a vivid imagination of what you are (might) doing while he's locked up (even if you haven't even been tempted). That makes him unjustly angry. You're picturing other women communicating with him, even visiting. The trust between you deteriorates becasue of the lack of real...Read more
My boyfriend is getting released pretty soon, and i was wondering where can i find out his release date? He got approved for everything ! He won't tell me on the phone
Strange that he won't tell you a date to pick him up... Call the counselor or the case manager, see if they will share that information with you. If you don't know a date, and he won't tell you... maybe he has other arrangements??
You know your guy better than most, use your intuition. If he is a player on the streets he gonna try and be a player from inside, too. Most jail term relationships fall apart when they are released, not while they are in custody. But you already know who he is and that should help you with your decision.
If my husbands girffriend has a baby but has a warrant can his wife bring in the infant to visit its father
If she has a warrant and enters a detention facility visiting room, she will definitely be held on the warrant until the issuing jurisdiction comes for her.