is there a way that i can see who is on his call list and also am i allowed to see who is on his visition list

Your inmate is granted privacy regarding their visitation and telephone list as will as their inmate trust fund account. we would advise you to use your instinct regarding your relationship with this inmate. If you are concerned with who your inmate calls or who is on your inmate's visitation list you will lose control of your own situation. Your inmate is in prison, you are on the outside; if they are seeing or speaking with other women, you need to move on. This is a time for you to wake up and move on. 

Although I was incarcerated and tend to be on the inmate's side on these questions, you cannot let an inmate dictate how you live your life. If you do not set some boundaries and rules, including sticking up for yourself, he will get released, come out and leave you. Trust THIS ex-inmate on this, i've seen it a few times with guys I NEVER thought would do that.