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Subject: Relationship issues
Is it hard being away from your wife for so long? Do you miss your family?
Yes, it is excruciating - almost like dying and watching your family go on without you. Your mind plays tricks on you and your self-talk is always questioning whether the wife is faithful. It creates stress, anxiety and fighting on the phone.
Subject: Relationship issues
How do i convince my soul mate im not sleeping with anyone? He knows we are made for each other ... We r so in love but his insecurities are breaking my heart. We are together through all this but i need him strong with me.
This is not unusual, in fact, this is the main problem with relationships in prison. The inmate has all day to create the worst possible scenarios in their brain about what is going on outside the walls. They don't have control of their situation and they have only their loved ones to take it out on. I used to tell people "i felt like i died and was forced to watch my family's life to go on without me". I...
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Subject: Relationship issues
When somebody falls in love with somebody who has killed is it okay to pursue that feeling towards them? Or would you recommend staying away from them or do you believe in second chances?
We all believe in second chances and in fact, InmateAid helps former inmates find great employment opportunities. It is our opinion that falling in love with someone in jail for murder is a slippery slope. First, there is the separation time that is the length of their sentence. Second, that time is not easy to do, waiting for someone to get out, dealing with the bad times (on the phone when he accuses you of cheating even if you're not)....
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Subject: Relationship issues
what's Kingman prison cerbat unit like are the guards weird the female women do they get with the inmates what's really going on
There is nothing to know. If a guard "gets with an inmate" it is RAPE, pure and simple. The guard becomes an inmate (for at least 5 years), so don't let your imagination get the best of you. Can it happen? Yes. Does it happen? Very rarely because the penalty is stiffer on the guard.
Subject: Relationship issues
I have my fiancee in Madison County Jail, here in Nebraska, is it bad that at times when I go see him, I get accused of cheating on him when I'm not and I have been keeping to myself more than anything else.
Yes, this is a normal, typical experience that most women go through in riding out a sentence with an inmate you love. They have nothing but time to think about all the possibilities that are happening on the outside. Inmates create a "science fiction novel" in their head and dump all that on you, either on the phone or at the visitation. There is nothing you can do but maintain your innocence. This is the kind of thing that makes...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Do inmates do sexually stuff in there?
Some do so privately
Subject: Relationship issues
Why is my inmate cancelling my visits
He doesn't want to see you. Try sending a letter and find out why.
Subject: Relationship issues
Why would your inmate tell you it's better if y'hw just stop writing + calling and just take time off from each other
Your inmate might be deep in his feelings. He's looking an amount of time that is making him think that the future with you is limited, that you might leave him anyway. Give it some time (as he suggests) and then try again in a few weeks, maybe send him a magazine subscription that would have him thinking about "who sent it" every time he gets an issue?
Subject: Relationship issues
Who can we see who our inmate is calling & texting?
No one can see who they are calling, visiting, texting or receiving money or mail from, they are provided with the same privacy on the inside as you are on the outside
Subject: Relationship issues
How come your loved one doesn't get back to u and wondering if they are ok. And been writing and sending pictures and nothing.
Inmates go through a period of despair upon being incarcerated. Their wave of emotions spans from sadness to anger, to blaming others before reality hits them in the face that they are locked up because of actions taken by themselves. Keep in touch for a while longer and see if things improve. Our take is that they will improve and ultimately the kindness you've shown will pay dividends in their behavior later in their sentence.