Reviewed on: May 01,2026
Relationship Issues

Do male inmates have more then one female you write or call?

A question for all inmates...... Do you have more than one female you write, email, and call? And how true are you with the females? Last one left for the best.... Do you mean to play mind games with them as well?

Yes, we have more than one person write.
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Answered by a former federal inmate · 14+ years advising families
✓ Verified answer January 23,2018 · Relationship Issues
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Yes, we have more than one person write. When you're locked up you have nothing but free time. To us, the more letters, the better. For calls, in federal inmates may only talk 300 minutes per month (400 minutes in Nov. and Dec.), state inmates can talk all day if they have the funds on their account. Many penpals will send money so that the inmate will call them. Some do, some don't

We don't mean to play mind games, BUT, the truth is that as an inmate you want the connection to the outside world. To us, we don't care who it is as long as we have some connection. Inmates are going to say pretty much anything you want to hear to keep them engaged. It is when we are released we go back to acting like assholes (sorry).

Advice: Don't believe everything they say and definitely don't go broke sending them money. It's nice to do if you have a little extra, but don't make your own lifestyle harder to make an inmate's easier.

Accepted Answer Date Created: January 23,2018
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About this answer: This response was prepared by InmateAid’s editorial team in consultation with former inmates who have direct experience with the federal correctional system. InmateAid has served families of the incarcerated since 2012. This is general information only — not legal advice. Last reviewed May 2026.