Getting married while incarcerated is possible but the process varies significantly by facility, jurisdiction, and security level. Some facilities actively facilitate inmate marriages. Others make it extremely difficult. This section covers how to request permission to marry an incarcerated person, what the facility approval process typically looks like, what documentation is required, how the ceremony is conducted, what legal rights a prison marriage carries, and what practical considerations families should think through before pursuing marriage during incarceration. The questions answered here come from people in real relationships navigating this decision with limited information. The guidance is practical and honest about both the possibilities and the challenges. Marriage during incarceration can be a meaningful source of stability and commitment for both parties when approached with clear eyes and realistic expectations. See also our sections on Visitation, Relationship Issues, and Family Services.
Subject: Marriage in prison
You will need to obtain a Marriage License from the county recorder's office. For incarcerated persons, they will not be in a position to appear before the county recorder to apply with you for the marriage license. Instead, the inmate will need to sign a form called “Affidavit of Inability to Appear." This Inability to Appear form must be notarized. There are costs associated with these functions, we do not know what they are.
Subject: Marriage in prison
When an inmate decides to get married, the first step is to submit an inmate request form to the Chaplain requesting to be married. The Chaplain tells the inmate about the information and forms they must provide in order for a decision to be made. This includes:
A letter from both parties indicating their desire to marry;
court papers indicating the termination of a marriage(s) if either party was previously married; or in the case of a marriage ending by the...
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It depends on where they are incarcerated and how long their sentence is. Usually, inmates with short sentences are not permitted to marry while locked up.
Subject: Marriage in prison
Our best advice is to call the facility chaplain and ask if this is available to the inmates and if so what the rules are.
Subject: Marriage in prison
Getting married will require the approval of the warden. You might try communicating with the chaplain first to see what the institution's rules are for getting married.
Subject: Marriage in prison
Regulations for marrying a prisoner will vary from prison institution to institution - it is usually only available if the inmate has a long sentence.
The chaplain at the prison will be a good source of information about getting married there.
If your relationship with a prisoner has been only through mail or email correspondence, don't get married!
Before getting married, talk with others who have married prisoners so you have an understanding of how difficult this role may be...
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Not sure. Facilities that allow marriage do so mainly for long-term sentenced inmates. We would advise calling the chaplain and asking what their policy is.
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Not all jails allow inmates to get married, but many state and federal prisons do allow it. You should call the facility chaplain to see what the policy is for marriage.
Subject: Marriage in prison
It's not a law, it's a privilege that is offered to inmates with more than a year on their sentence with approval from the warden.
Subject: Marriage in prison
Yes, several penal facilities allow inmates to marry. You would first speak with the chaplain at the prison. The majority of chaplains don't believe prisoners should be allowed to marry. They feel as long as someone is incarcerated and not contributing to society, it goes along as part of the punishment. They don't deserve to be married while in prison because it's a privilege."
That privilege extends to spending time alone with a new wife, something that doesn't happen after most...
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