Don't let your imagination run away with you. Inmates sometimes pick a fight to see if you'll stay with them... because can't account for you on the outside, the fight is a test to see if you'll go on without them. He can't do anything about what you're doing. Sometimes his imagination might get the better of him.

You would know your husband better than we do. But, it's not easy to cheat from jail. If you suspect something, your instincts are usually right. Only time will tell.

Conjugal visits are rare these days and there are still a few state prisons that have them. Currently, only California, Connecticut, Mississippi, New Mexico, New York, and Washington allow conjugal visits.

All you can do is continue writing letters. Some inmates, especially newly incarcerated ones are affected by the harsh disconnection from society. They might be "in their feelings" and are not ready to communicate with people on the outside just yet.  If you are persistent, the letters will eventually make an impact and she will eventually respond.

No, an inmate's privacy is protected like anyone on the outside would be. 

This question gets asked a lot. The issue at hand is that the privacy of an inmate is the same for people on the outside. The ONLY way to find out who is visiting them or who they are calling is to ask the inmate themselves.  The BOP or any state DOC will not offer that information to anyone without the permission of the inmate

Yes, it is excruciating - almost like dying and watching your family go on without you. Your mind plays tricks on you and your self-talk is always questioning whether the wife is faithful. It creates stress, anxiety and fighting on the phone.

if you suspect that he's talking to someone else, your instincts are usually right. if he is not responding, you should use that as a sign to move on with your life. waiting for someone that isn't interested enough to stay in touch while they're locked up doesn't bode well for a solid future when they get out. this is not easily resolved when there is this type of separation. inmates are good at manipulating their loved ones on the outside

Do you know what you want to hear to make contacting him worthwhile? He might use this opportunity to make you feel worse. I think there is more to this story, if you want to share, I'll be happy to listen and help where I can.

no, they are afforded the same privacy protection as someone on the outside. ask them yourself to see what they will tell you