Some do for sure. Depending on the amount of time in the sentence, the 19-month marker is about when the relationship breaks (my experience). Can it be repaired? Yes, it can but it'll take work and compromise on both parties.
Read moregood question! smack him upside the head? but he's not listening and the only way to get his attention is to get out of the situation. If he's doing it when you're around he doesn't respect you enough to stop. Maybe he'll wake up if you walk.
Read moreThe consequences run on two separate tracks simultaneously, and both are serious in their own way. The internal disciplinary track happens first and fastest. The inmate goes to the SHU while the investigation is underway. A Disciplinary Hearing Officer reviews the incident and determines the punishment, which typically includes time in disciplinary segregation, loss of good time credits, loss of privileges, and potentially a custody level increase that results in transfer to a higher security facility. That transfer is
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Read moreTransfer decisions are among the most difficult things for families to influence from the outside, and the system offers very little transparency about why a specific request was denied. After 23 years of incarceration and 11 years at the same facility, a denial feels particularly frustrating, but the reality is that these decisions are made internally and the reasoning is rarely shared with the inmate or their family. That said, there are still some steps worth taking. Your
Read moreThere are three ways phone calls work from a county jail, and understanding the difference between them matters because the cost varies dramatically depending on which option you use. The first is the inmate paying from their own account. If money has been deposited onto their books, the cost of each call gets deducted directly from their trust account when they dial. This is the standard setup and the one most families use once they have funded the account.
Read morePhysical mail through the postal service has no restrictions on who can send it. Anyone can write to an inmate via USPS regardless of whether they are on an approved email list, a phone list, or any other facility-managed contact list. Those approval processes apply to electronic messaging systems like JPay or CorrLinks and to phone calls, not to incoming postal mail. This is an important distinction that a lot of people do not realize. The approved contact list
Read moreNo, responding to a letter does not cost him anything beyond a postage stamp, which is either provided by the facility or purchased through commissary for a small amount. That is the same cost he would incur sending any letter to anyone on the outside, and it has nothing to do with InmateAid specifically. When you send a letter through InmateAid, the cost is covered entirely on your end when you place the order. The letter arrives at the
Read moreWhat you are thinking about doing is genuinely meaningful, and the need is real on a scale that most people on the outside never fully appreciate. There are over two million people incarcerated across the United States. A significant portion of them have no one contributing to their commissary, no one sending letters, no one accepting their calls. They move through their sentence largely invisible to the outside world, and the absence of outside connection has measurable effects on
Read moreBeing on probation does not automatically disqualify someone from visiting an incarcerated person, but it does add a layer of requirements that have to be addressed before any visit can happen. The first step is disclosure. When you apply for visitation, you are required to disclose your probation status on the application. Do not leave it off. Facilities run background checks on all visitation applicants, and an omission is treated far more seriously than the underlying offense. Honesty upfront
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