Reviewed on: April 17,2016

My husband is a repeat offender and keeps going back, should I stay with him?

I have been married to my husband for 3 years and I have been with him for 4 years. In those 4 years he has served 13 months in prison and been in and out of the county jail for the past year. When he was in prison I had our little girl. Within those 13 months he seen her one time because it was hard with finances for me to travel 3 hours one way to go see him. When he was released my daughter was a year old. So he has already missed a year of our daughters life. Now he is back in the county jail waiting for his sentence. I don't know how much time he will be getting. My question is should I stay married to him and be there for him like I was the first time. When he was in prison the first time I did not cheat on him I barely talked to anybody. I kept money on the phone and I kept money on his commissary. I just don't know if I can go threw all that again. It is bad enough when he goes to county jail. My daughter which is now 2 knows when her daddy is not around and that's all she does is throw a fit for him. I need help trying to figure out what to do. I don't want to make the wrong choice. Can you please help me?

Asked: February 24,2016
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We get many of these questions from nice ladies like yourself. Our answer is the same, only you know in your heart what you feel. No advice will change that. If he is in for a long stretch of time and you are tired of what he has brought to the relationship in the last four years, then you know what to do. If you are still head-over-heels in love then let that guide you. As long as the relationship is free of violence or abuse you can still work things out. But, if these past four years are worth forgetting and his latest actions are just too much to continue dealing with then you have your answer. Our experience tells us that guys who continue to go back in are destined to repeat over and over. You will continue to work to feed his commissary account and phone bill with very little (except idle promises that he's changing) to show for it.
Accepted Answer Date Created: February 25,2016