Subject: General prison questions-terminology
Do not deposit or cash the check yourself. It is not yours to negotiate, even with good intentions, and doing so could create a legal problem you do not want.
The right process is to contact his counselor at the Cherokee County Adult Detention Center and explain the situation. Tell them his paycheck arrived and you want to get it deposited into his commissary or phone account. The facility will instruct you to send the unsigned check directly to them. Once...
Read moreSubject: Visitation
Depending on where the visit takes place, the general rule is that you may bring twenty dollars in coins and/or small bills and it must be brought in a clear, see-through purse/container. Some places allow you to bring a little more money, but the rules are still the same. Also, remember that this is to be used for the vending machines, you must make the purchase, don't let the inmate even touch the money whatsoever.
Subject: Pending criminal charges
If this is a state charge, you can contact the Clerk of the Court in the county where they were arrested. If this is a federal charge, you can Google your inmate's name with the word "indictment" to see the FBI's statement on the charges. They love to brag about their conquests so there is no lack of publicity.
If neither of these work, you can use a pay service that has the most accurate and up-to-date arrest information nationwide. That cost...
Read moreSubject: Relationship issues
The honest answer, from someone who has been there, is that most inmates would want more from a pen pal relationship if they could have it. The environment of incarceration strips away so much that the arrival of a letter from someone who genuinely cares becomes disproportionately meaningful. That magnified significance can easily be mistaken for deep romantic connection on both sides.
There is also something specific to being locked up that makes inmates more present, more thoughtful, and more emotionally...
Read moreSubject: Relationship issues
Most do not survive, and the honest numbers are sobering. Very few relationships make it past the 18-month mark when a long sentence is involved, and the ones that do are genuinely the exception rather than the rule.
What makes it harder to understand is that the breakdown does not always happen the way people expect. It is not always the person on the outside who walks away. Some of the most painful stories involve women who held it down completely,...
Read moreSubject: Residential drug abuse program (rdap)
RDAP is not available at most federal detention centers, so the path to the program almost always involves a transfer to a facility that runs it.
Here is how the math works and why the timing matters. RDAP is a nine-month residential program. Completing it earns a full 12 months off the sentence. On top of that, graduates receive an automatic six months of halfway house placement. Add those three numbers together and you get 27 months. That is why the...
Read moreSubject: Residential drug abuse program (rdap)
There are no federal sentences that force an inmate into drug rehabilitation. Your inmate was NOT sentenced in federal court to do RDAP, if they get it it's great, but it's not a part of the sentence at all. It could be a recommendation but the Federal Bureau of Prisons makes all the decisions, the judge has nothing to do with it once they are property of the BOP.
RDAP is voluntary, but if eligible, it is the only way to carve...
Read moreSubject: Relationship issues
Yes, I had a couple of pen pals who rode out my bid with me. One I met in the visiting room (she was visiting another inmate), where we had a physical attraction. That pen pal seemed more real to me, I made greater efforts to let myself be more open than the one who just started writing me (from a news account of my trial). Neither went beyond the intimate letters and occasional phone calls. They bought me magazines...
Read moreSubject: Arrest record search
Yes, we would be ahppy to help you locate your loved one. We need their name and the state you think they are incarcerated in. Was the crime a state or federal crime? Also, if you have their DOB, that might help. Sometimes the information is very recent and we would have to refer you to a pay service that has the freshest information. It's about $20, but if you are really in need, that is the best option.
Subject: Medical treatment
Yes, eyeglasses are permitted in every classification of prison and/or jail. Just be sure to disclose that you are bringing them so that they do not see you passing the inmate something which is certain to cause a big ruckus.


