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Subject: Relationship issues

no, inmates are entitled to privacy too

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Subject: Send inmate mail

Your inmate receives a physical printed letter, not a digital message. That hard copy gets handed to them directly by staff after the mailroom opens and inspects it, which is standard procedure for all incoming mail at every correctional facility. On timing, the typical window is 2 to 3 business days from when InmateAid processes and sends the letter to when your inmate has it in their hands. That is faster than most people expect and reflects the fact

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Subject: All topics

The rules everywhere are that the inmate must initiate the call and you will be prompted as to whether you will allow the call to be connected. There are going to be charges connected to saying "yes". If you are going to speak with your inmate for more than once a week, you should look into getting a number from InmateAid to make the calls cheaper.

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Subject: Inmate phone calls

Either call the facility and speak with a case manager or counselor, they have the power to reinstate your line.

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Subject: Medical treatment

InmateAID Rule Number One: don't get sick in prison. The hardest part to get used to is that we consider to be appropriate and what they deem to be appropriate. Medical attention in prison is not great. You can certainly become an advocate by contacting the lower chains to see if you can get some empathy from a counselor or case manager. The next level would be the chaplain and then up to the Assistant Warden and then Warden. The problem with

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Subject: Send inmate mail

Inmates can get letter writing materials almost immediately upon incarceration. Writing loved ones is encouraged by the institutions and even provide the postage to indigent inmates.

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Subject: General prison questions-terminology

Suicide watch is considered very serious and the treatment may be as extreme as being confined to a padded room with nothing in it, including clothing, if the inmate exhibits signs of hurting themselves. 

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Subject: Marriage in prison

Currently, only six U.S. states allow prison conjugal visits within their prison systems: California, Connecticut, Mississippi, New Mexico, New York and Washington. Originally, prison conjugal visits were used as an incentive to motivate working prisoners to be more productive. They were scheduled visits that allowed the prison inmate to spend one-on-one time with his or her legal spouse. Prisoners were lured by the idea of having the opportunity to have sexual contact with their spouses. Today, the main purpose

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Subject: Relationship issues

Being in a relationship with someone you can't actually BE in a relationship with is a maddening process that rarely makes it through the bid if it's more than a few years. The inmate has a vivid imagination of what you are (might) doing while he's locked up (even if you haven't even been tempted). That makes him unjustly angry. You're picturing other women communicating with him, even visiting. The trust between you deteriorates becasue of the lack of real

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Subject: Parole, probation & supervised release

No, it's very unlikely. For starters, the UK will not allow a felon from the US to even enter or gain temporary visa status with a conviction on their record. There was an incident that occurred when Martha Steewart tried to enter Great Britain for a business meeting after she was released from prison - she was not allowed to enter. A sex offender will no doubt meet the same barrier.

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