Trust what you actually experience over what someone tells you secondhand, and your experience is that when you two talk, it goes well. There are a few explanations for why this happens. The most common is that staff passing along messages about inmate preferences are often working from limited or outdated information. A case manager or unit officer who was asked at one moment whether an inmate wanted contact may have caught them at a low point, a bad day, a...

There is no way to access your husband's call logs, approved contact list, or correspondence from the outside. Inmates have privacy rights that extend to their personal communications while incarcerated, and that information is not available to family members, spouses, or anyone else outside the facility without a legal process. The facility itself monitors all inmate communication for security purposes, but that monitoring is internal. It is not shared with outside parties on request. What is worth sitting with is the reason...