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Subject: Relationship issues
We have no idea what will happen when they are released. You probably know your inmate better than we do, and know their personality better than us. But, there are countless stories where inmates often leave their significant others upon release. You know we can't be certain about the advice we are giving here, but the overwhelming majority of inmates "run" as soon as they are on their feet. An inmate that actually has an affair is even more likely...
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Subject: Relationship issues
We get many of these questions from nice ladies like yourself. Our answer is the same, only you know in your heart what you feel. No advice will change that. If he is in for a long stretch of time and you are tired of what he has brought to the relationship in the last four years, then you know what to do. If you are still head-over-heels in love then let that guide you. As long as the relationship...
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Subject: Relationship issues
We receive many of these type of questions. Our answer is quite simple, you know this man and know him better than anyone else. Us giving you advice whether to stay or go would be irresponsible of us. Generally speaking, if he was loyal while he was free he will be loyal when he gets out. If he ran around when he was free... you know what is going to happen. BUT, our experience is that many, many inmates use women...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Your situation is very common. The women left behind are doing a sentence of their own. The people telling you to break it off don't really know how you feel deep down. That is not to say their advice is not sound, they care about you and are anticipating you going through heartache. We have written quite a bit about this subject in Marry an Inmate - where the relationship is rocky (over the phone and at visitation) but makes...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Someone will have to file the case in court and that does cost a little money. If he is able to have a lawyer do the paperwork, it would cost a couple hundred dollars. If he has a jailhouse lawyer file the papers and mail them from prison, it'll only be seventy-five dollars plus some bags of tuna for the inmate that did the work inside.
Subject: Relationship issues
He was drinking and driving, got stopped and blames you? This sounds like a "him problem". If he is that arrogant to do something wrong and blame another person without taking any responsibility himself, we think it might be a good idea to let him cool off for a while. If he isn't going to write you, he's the one missing out. You are free to come and go, and since you can't visit - go about your life he...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Getting ready to divorce an inmate does not require you to complete any additional paperwork because of the incarceration. Visit your lawyer, fill out the documents, and have them served at the prison. It is easier to serve someone in prison since it is much simpler to find the person. In some states, you may have to wait a certain amount of time before you file for divorce. For example, many states require legal separation for a year or two before...
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Subject: Relationship issues
You would have to check with the custodian of the county records to see if they have you registered as married.