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Subject: Relationship issues
Maybe there is a logical explanation, one that you should not dismiss. Inmates have no restriction on how many letters they would like to write and send. There are not many excuses for not writing outside of two broken hands and even at that, he could have someone write the letter for him to let you know everything is okay. We have written quite a lot about how inmates try to control their loved ones from the inside, imagining that...
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Subject: Relationship issues
All of the inmate communication data is private and inaccessible by the general public. You cannot get information on their visitation list, their calling list or who sends in money. If she is calling someone else, she might not be your girl
Subject: Relationship issues
Inmates privacy is protected, therefore you cannot gain any information on the inmate's phone calls, visitation, who send him mail or money. He will not have Internet access, but there are plenty of ways to continue contact with people on the outside. If you know that he has done this while not locked up, there is a pretty good chance he will doing some of the same while locked up.
Subject: Relationship issues
Inmates deal with loneliness in different ways. We have always felt that reading is the "great escape", which is why InmateAid promotes the concept of books, magazines and newspapers to inmates. Also, sending letters and pictures help keep the bond to loved ones strong. Inmates are oftentimes abandoned by their loved ones, shunned for the shame of incarceration. This is when loneliness and helplessness sets in. If you were thrust into a penitentiary with a few years ahead of you...
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Subject: Relationship issues
We have no idea what will happen when they are released. You probably know your inmate better than we do, and know their personality better than us. But, there are countless stories where inmates often leave their significant others upon release. You know we can't be certain about the advice we are giving here, but the overwhelming majority of inmates "run" as soon as they are on their feet. An inmate that actually has an affair is even more likely...
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Subject: Relationship issues
We get many of these questions from nice ladies like yourself. Our answer is the same, only you know in your heart what you feel. No advice will change that. If he is in for a long stretch of time and you are tired of what he has brought to the relationship in the last four years, then you know what to do. If you are still head-over-heels in love then let that guide you. As long as the relationship...
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Subject: Relationship issues
We receive many of these type of questions. Our answer is quite simple, you know this man and know him better than anyone else. Us giving you advice whether to stay or go would be irresponsible of us. Generally speaking, if he was loyal while he was free he will be loyal when he gets out. If he ran around when he was free... you know what is going to happen. BUT, our experience is that many, many inmates use women...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Your situation is very common. The women left behind are doing a sentence of their own. The people telling you to break it off don't really know how you feel deep down. That is not to say their advice is not sound, they care about you and are anticipating you going through heartache. We have written quite a bit about this subject in Marry an Inmate - where the relationship is rocky (over the phone and at visitation) but makes...
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Subject: Relationship issues
Someone will have to file the case in court and that does cost a little money. If he is able to have a lawyer do the paperwork, it would cost a couple hundred dollars. If he has a jailhouse lawyer file the papers and mail them from prison, it'll only be seventy-five dollars plus some bags of tuna for the inmate that did the work inside.