First, congratulations for being there at the finish line. Ten years is a long stretch for everyone on both sides of those walls, and the fact that you rode it out says something real about who you are.
Now for the honest version of what comes next, because you deserve that more than you deserve reassurances.
The technology gap alone is jarring in ways that are hard to fully anticipate. Smartphones, apps, contactless payments, streaming services, the way people navigate and communicate now, all of it will feel foreign to someone who has been insulated from it for a decade. He will feel behind in ways that are embarrassing and frustrating, and that feeling can quietly undermine his confidence at a time when confidence is already fragile. Be patient with it. It passes, but it takes longer than most people expect.
Ten years of institutional living leaves marks that do not disappear on release day. The routines, the hypervigilance, the habits built for survival inside, those are deeply ingrained. I still sleep with a towel over my eyes years after my own release. He will have his version of that. Some of it will be small and harmless. Some of it will need conscious work to unlearn.
The employment piece is the most urgent practical challenge. A ten-year gap and a felony record narrow the field significantly, and the frustration of rejection when he is genuinely trying can spiral into depression faster than either of you might expect. Realistic goals matter more than ambitious ones right now. A job that is beneath what he feels he deserves is still a job that builds a record, income, and routine. That foundation matters more than the title.
The uneasiness you will see in him is real and it is normal. It is not a sign that something is wrong or that the relationship is in trouble. It is the process of a person recalibrating to a world that kept moving without them for ten years.
Stay close, stay patient, and keep the lines of communication open. If there is anything InmateAid can do to help with the reentry process, reach out.