Why is my inmate asking for so much commissary money?

It is very unlikely that repeated requests for large amounts of money several times a week are only for basic commissary.

In most facilities, there are spending limits on commissary, either weekly or monthly. That alone usually prevents someone from legitimately needing frequent large deposits just for food or hygiene items.

When you see requests happening that often, especially asking for money to be sent to another inmate’s account, it usually points to something else going on. Common reasons include:

• Owing money to other inmates
• Gambling or informal betting inside
• Buying items or favors off the books
• Trading or running up debts they cannot cover themselves

Sending money to another inmate’s account is a major red flag. That is not normal for basic needs and often means your brother may be trying to settle a debt or avoid a problem.

It is also important to understand that inmates can become very persuasive when asking for money. They have a lot of time and know how to appeal to concern, especially with family members who want to help.

The best thing you can do is set clear boundaries:

• Decide on a fixed amount you are willing to send and stick to it
• Do not send money to other inmates’ accounts
• Ask direct questions about what the money is for

If your father is elderly, it is especially important to protect him from being pressured into sending more than he can afford.

Helping with reasonable support is one thing. Being pulled into ongoing financial requests that do not add up is something different. Keeping control of the situation and setting limits is the safest approach for everyone involved.