I know this is not the best of questions..but I think my GF has a prison wife and I really need to know what to expect..isim sure she is open about it around a lot of other people any way I can get info from a guard or inmate

There is not much you can do about your suspicion except ask your GF. There are no guards that will violate the rules and communicate what transpires inside the prison. If you know another inmate, maybe they can help you. But if you suspect something, it probably is happening. We wish you the best.