Ask The Inmate. Real answers from people who've been there.

This really comes down to personal boundaries and the agreement you have in your relationship, not a rule set by the prison system. Incarceration puts a lot of strain on relationships because one person has very limited control and visibility into what is happening on the outside. That can lead to trust issues, insecurity, and misunderstandings, even in strong relationships. Having friends of the opposite gender is not automatically inappropriate. What matters is: The level of trust between you and your partner Clear communication...

Yes, inmates retain civil rights, including the right to seek legal protection from harassment and a no-contact order is available to them even while incarcerated. The process is more complicated than it would be on the outside but it is not impossible. The starting point for an inmate seeking a no-contact order is filing a petition in the civil court of the jurisdiction where the harassment is occurring or where the harassing party is located. This typically means a restraining order...

You will need to contact the chaplain, your inmate's counselor and then finally the warden (who make the final decision). If your depiction of your inmate is exactly as you describe, there is a very good chance that you can coax a furlough out of the warden. The minimum custody level give him the absolute best chance. Just start with the chaplain and they will give you your best path as they know the inner-workings of the facility he works...

No cigarettes allowed anywhere on the property. Cigarettes are considered contraband and possessing them subject the inmate to some form of punishment, usually in the form of a loss of privileges. Cigarettes are smuggled into all of the facilities and there is a barter system in place that is pays for it. This is NOT heavily scrutinized by the staff. The mail is handed out by the staff Monday - Friday after they have read and inspected every piece. The staff...

Yes, in most cases you can send money for canteen to a juvenile in a detention facility, but the process varies more than it does for adult facilities and the rules are often stricter. Juvenile detention centers typically do not use the same money transfer services as adult jails and prisons. Western Union, JPay, and similar platforms may not be available. Many juvenile facilities require money to be sent directly to the facility by money order made out to the facility...