It is not the easiest thing for an inmate to do unless their spouse files on the outside first. Your inmate would need a lawyer to handle the court filings. For the inmate to do this, he would need to be able to pay for the legal service of filing since he cannot do it for himself. The institution will NOT do this for him, they do not look at this issue seriously.

Really?? Do you think prison is a dating service. There is ZERO contact with female inmates by male inmates. Unless they are in a building that has the windows facing the interior where maybe they can catch a glance of a female inmate, there is no interaction. Inmate do not have access to the internet, there is no inter-communication between inmates online - if they use email (some places have it), it is a closed system with a very strict analytical keyword

This is a typical behavior of inmates in general. It might be the relationship, or it might just be him - and not that he is seeing or speaking to another woman but oftentimes they get depressed and disconnect from people they love. There is a perception on the inside that the outside world has forgotten us. We would give it a little time, maybe write a letter and address your concerns. He might be feeling helpless and lost, OR

Some people never really learn. They keep repeating old mistakes and will never change. There are very few cases of someone drinking and driving by the walls of prison.

There is no set answer, so we say "maybe". The history of inmates getting released and leaving their significant other almost immediately after the release is a puzzling fact that we are not sure why it is so. But, we know that it is an overwhelmingly high statistic. Depending on how long the incarceration period was will skew the statistics. The short time inmate doesn't have the longevity to become institutionalized. Inmates in long-term incarceration begin to rely on the

Without knowing the facts, we do know that inmates are pretty good at explaining things in a way that always make them the victim rather than the problem. You man has gone in more than once, this puts him in the category of someone that doesn't yet get it. Inmates do not get "screwed over" by their loved ones on the outside, more likely the inmate did something to make that jilted person cynical and vindictive because it is them

He has to want to change. You are not the problem. If you think that you are going to change him, you are wrong. He has now been in the system which makes it easy to get caught up in something else (because they are now watching him more closely) and the future is going to be tougher than before this charge. If you see that he is willing to cut off all ties to his old friends and stop

We really would have no way of knowing the reason, but we would encourage you to call the counselor, case manager or chaplain. They are usually very kind and open to helping.

It's hard to give the advice that we want to give versus the advice you want to hear. Inmates that go in and out of jail are not going to be easy to live with. The incarceration process definitely changes a person but the ones that are going to succeed after release are the ones that have made the conscious decision to change their ways, habits and people they associate with. Justin is not in that category yet. If you

It is not our place to determine whether you are a good girlfriend. You have to be at peace with your decision to stay. If you are going to ride it out until the end with himi, just know there are going to be some rough spots along the way. Be prepared and feel free to write back as often as possible over the coming months if you need questions answered.