No. Power of attorney does not give you access to an inmate's phone and messaging records, and neither does paying the bill. Inmates retain privacy rights over their communications, at least from other civilians. The facility monitors calls and messages as a matter of policy, and that is disclosed to everyone using the system. But that monitoring belongs to the institution, not to you. Being the person funding the account does not change that. The harder truth here is that if the...

You cannot control who he calls through the facility's general phone system, but you can control what you pay for. If you fund an InmateAid discount phone number, that number works for calls to you only. He cannot use it to reach anyone else. Whatever he does on the facility's regular system with money from other sources is outside your control, but at least you know your money is not financing it. Beyond that, the only real leverage you have is...

This is one of the more painful things to sit with, and it deserves a straight answer rather than a soft one. What you are describing is not a contradiction that needs explaining away. It is a pattern, and it tells you something real about where you stand versus where he says you stand. Proposals and declarations of love cost an inmate nothing. They are easy to make from a cell, especially when the person hearing them is on the outside...

Yes, and you do not need to wait long if something feels off. Not hearing from an inmate who normally stays in contact is worth following up on, and there is a clear path to doing it. Call the facility directly and work your way up the chain. Start with the unit team secretary. They handle administrative functions for the unit and can often pull up basic status information quickly. If they cannot help or will not give you what you...