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Subject: Relationship issues

How can you tell if an inmate is having multiple women on their visiting list?

Not through any channel other than your inmate's truthfulness... but if you are asking you probably know the answer

Subject: Relationship issues

Why Would an Inmate Want to Marry Me but Still Pursue Others

This is one of the more painful things to sit with, and it deserves a straight answer rather than a soft one. What you are describing is not a contradiction that needs explaining away. It is a pattern, and it tells you something real about where you stand versus where he says you stand. Proposals and declarations of love cost an inmate nothing. They are easy to make from a cell, especially when the person hearing them is on

Subject: Relationship issues

Por Que Mi Amigo Preso No Responde Mis Cartas?

No me rendiría tan rápido. Pruebe con otra carta (tal vez a través de nuestro sitio) y vea qué sucede. Los reclusos entienden sus sentimientos fácilmente, es posible que deba ser más persistente de lo habitual

Subject: Survive prison

How many fights have you been in?

as few as possible... but sometimes you have to protect yourself and let nature take it's course

Subject: Survive prison

How Do You Do a Wellness Check on an Inmate?

Yes, and you do not need to wait long if something feels off. Not hearing from an inmate who normally stays in contact is worth following up on, and there is a clear path to doing it. Call the facility directly and work your way up the chain. Start with the unit team secretary. They handle administrative functions for the unit and can often pull up basic status information quickly. If they cannot help or will not give you

Subject: Website function questions

Does InmateAid Use My Home Address on Outgoing Letters?

You do not need to provide your address and it will not appear on the envelope automatically. That is one of the core features of the service. When InmateAid sends a letter on your behalf, the return address on the envelope is InmateAid's address in Florida. Your name appears at the top, but the address below it is the company's, not yours. The inmate knows the letter is from you, but anyone else handling that envelope, including facility staff,

Subject: Relationship issues

Do female guards get into relationships with the male inmates ??

It does happen from time to time, more than you'd think. You will see articles in the news where they expose female guards having sex with inmates. These guards quickly become inmates themselves in the end.

Subject: Relationship issues

So you tell people to send you naughty pictures?

only if they want to

Subject: Release questions

What's do u look forward to most while incarcerated?

getting out

Subject: Relationship issues

Hey are you open to a pen pal even tho i see your engagement being announced

let me ask my fiance for permission ;)