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Relationship Issues
Por Que Mi Amigo Preso No Responde Mis Cartas?
No me rendiría tan rápido.…

No me rendiría tan rápido. Pruebe con otra carta (tal vez a través de nuestro sitio) y vea qué sucede. Los reclusos entienden sus sentimientos fácilmente, es posible que deba ser más persistente de lo habitual
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Survive Prison
How many fights have you been in?
as few as possible...…

as few as possible... but sometimes you have to protect yourself and let nature take it's course
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Survive Prison
How Do You Do a Wellness Check on an Inmate?
Yes, and you do not need to wait long if something feels off.…

Yes, and you do not need to wait long if something feels off. Not hearing from an inmate who normally stays in contact is worth following up on, and there is a clear path to doing it. Call the facility directly and work your way up the chain. Start with the unit team secretary. They handle administrative functions for the unit and can often pull up basic status information quickly. If they cannot help or will not give you what you...
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InmateAid Website questions
Does InmateAid Use My Home Address on Outgoing Letters?
You do not need to provide your address and it will not appear on the envelope automatically.…

You do not need to provide your address and it will not appear on the envelope automatically. That is one of the core features of the service. When InmateAid sends a letter on your behalf, the return address on the envelope is InmateAid's address in Florida. Your name appears at the top, but the address below it is the company's, not yours. The inmate knows the letter is from you, but anyone else handling that envelope, including facility staff, sees only...
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Relationship Issues
Do female guards get into relationships with the male inmates ??
It does happen from time to time, more than you'd think.…

It does happen from time to time, more than you'd think. You will see articles in the news where they expose female guards having sex with inmates. These guards quickly become inmates themselves in the end.
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Relationship Issues
So you tell people to send you naughty pictures?
only if they want to…

only if they want to
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Release Questions
What's do u look forward to most while incarcerated?
getting out…

getting out
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Relationship Issues
Hey are you open to a pen pal even tho i see your engagement being announced
let me ask my fiance for permission ;)…

let me ask my fiance for permission ;)
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Inmate Phone Calls
how can I let an inmate know that I opened a phone account for him
You can send a letter or a postcard to give them the information.…

You can send a letter or a postcard to give them the information.
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Survive Prison
Do you regret your actions that lead to incarceration?
yes, just about everyday i think about it and regret the lost time and the people I hurt…

yes, just about everyday i think about it and regret the lost time and the people I hurt
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Marriage in Prison
How Do You Get Permission to Get Married in Jail?
The warden is not necessarily your first or best move, and calling repeatedly from the outside is unlikely to get you far.…

The warden is not necessarily your first or best move, and calling repeatedly from the outside is unlikely to get you far. Facilities are not set up to field that kind of inquiry from visitors, and it tends to go nowhere fast. The more effective path starts on the inside. Have your inmate go directly to the chaplain. The chaplain is typically the person who handles marriage requests at the facility level, and they can tell you quickly whether the inmate...
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Send Inmate Mail
How to send newspapers to an inmate
Sending newspapers to an inmate is possible and staying connected to the outside world through current events is something many inmates genuinely value during a…

Sending newspapers to an inmate is possible and staying connected to the outside world through current events is something many inmates genuinely value during a long sentence. There are two ways to approach it depending on whether you want a national publication or a local newspaper from home. For national newspapers InmateAid offers subscriptions to several publications including the Wall Street Journal and USA Today, two of the most popular choices among incarcerated readers. You can set up a subscription directly through...
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Send Inmate Mail
How does my inmate get the pictures I sent from my phone
printed on glossy photo paper to the edge...…

printed on glossy photo paper to the edge... sent by US Mail into the prison or jail with InmateAid's return address
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Send Inmate Mail
Can we send naughty photos and how
They can be naughty but you cannot expose your private parts.…

They can be naughty but you cannot expose your private parts. You can take some selfies and upload them here on the website and we have them printed and mailed to your inmate immediately
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Visitation
Is New Mexico doing conjugal visits rn??? Or can we apply for one
New Mexico did away with conjugal visits for inmates in 2014. New York, California, Washington and Connecticut still offer them to prisoners.…

New Mexico did away with conjugal visits for inmates in 2014. New York, California, Washington and Connecticut still offer them to prisoners.
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