Ask the Inmate | Prison Violence

Subject: Prison violence

Hi my fiance is in a private prison, His cell mate has taken some of his things like head phones ect. & switched the parts where their names are so the cellmates name is on my fiances nicer newer property. My fiance is in their for 1st & 2nd degree assault & does not want to get in any fights or anything violent because it wont look good & his goal is to do his time & get out of there. What should he do? Thanks.

How does a guy with a double assault charge allow ANYONE to take from him without getting a little crazy?If he allows another inmate to take his stuff, then he can expect more of this to happen. We are not advocating that he get into fights, but the predators that he's locked up with will see this as weakness, him an easy mark and they will continue taking from him until there is nothing left to take. He can be

Subject: Relationship issues

My inmate hasn't called home or written. Been together every day night for almost 3 years. He has gone to jail before but always called. We are honestly best friends. This is totally out of the ordinary for us and he still has another 2 weeks until court. I write him and he has money on phone to call. Please give me a idea why he isn't calling home

We really would have no way of knowing the reason, but we would encourage you to call the counselor, case manager or chaplain. They are usually very kind and open to helping.

Subject: Bail & bond questions

for a 3rd offense probation violation does he qualify for bail?

Probably not. But, without knowing all the facts it is just a guess. If he has violated three times, maybe he wants to be in there?

Subject: Send inmate mail

How long it takes to get mail back on here

As long as it takes for the inmate to correspond. Writing back is on the inmate, right?

Subject: Visitation

I am approved to visit my boyfreind at geo san diego, I have gone to visit him already but about 1 week ago I was arested in county jail for a warrant and i am out on bail at the moment dont think it matters but it was a traffic ticket.......can i visit him will they screen my name again I am 2 hours away from geo

We would advise that you not go to visitation without first seeking special permission from the warden's office. If you approach them first and explain your situation in the most humble manner, you have a 50/50 chance of getting to see him. If you explain after being turned down, your chances get worse.

Subject: Law questions - legal terms

Lompoc has an inmate that is a party to a California divorce action. Trial is set. Can he appear at the trial via telephone per judge's order?

Highly unlikely any judge would require a federal inmate be present at a divorce trial. If the judge wants to hear from the inmate, it would be a telephonic communication request. The BOP is known to allow inmates, as a party to a civil lawsuit, make a call(s) to their lawyer to convey how they would like to be represented.

Subject: Release questions

M husband has been incarcerated on a parole violation for about a year now. There is a hold on him from a charge he picked up from the last time he was in prison. He was paroled with this charge he picked up and one he got locked up for originally ran concurrent. Then he violated but the charge he picked up is showing as a hold on him and no one iv talked to can tell me which department has this hold on him. Iv called the court and talked to the DA, iv talked to the parole officer but I can't talk to the councilor in the prison she won't give me info. He is scheduled to be released in 8 months and I really want to clear up the hold on him, how can I do it?

He needs to wake up and go see the counselor himself. If there is a hold, he HAS to be informed. We would be surprised if he didn't know already (and maybe doesn't want to tell you). The way it works is when you are so close to the door (8 months is short time), your counselor is meeting with you at least twice a month. They are gathering information to position the release, approve the next residence, etc. If

Subject: Relationship issues

Well this is really awkward and unusual for me,but what the heck you only live once right? Well Justin(inmate in Duffield jail) and I were sort of together about a year ago but he wanted to go in and out of my life.Then he went to jail and I stood by him through the whole time he was in Sullivan County then he was moved to Wise County jail and I couldn't talk and see him as much. When he got out he came home but he wasn't the Justin I loved he was angry and blew me off all the time. So we grew distant it's been a year now. He sent me a letter from Duffield jail now and I've wrote him back. It took everything I had to finally send him a letter and I poured my heart out to him and I love him so much it's unbelievable I'd lay down my life for that boy,but I'm afraid he doesn't really understand how much he hurt me and how much I care. I'm at a crossroads and I don't know what to do. He also has a child and she is so very precious but her mother is rude and loves the drama.

It's hard to give the advice that we want to give versus the advice you want to hear. Inmates that go in and out of jail are not going to be easy to live with. The incarceration process definitely changes a person but the ones that are going to succeed after release are the ones that have made the conscious decision to change their ways, habits and people they associate with. Justin is not in that category yet. If you

Subject: Website function questions

My daughter's father is in SCI Forest,PA. I am wondering why I cannot find him in the find an inmate on this site. Does SCI Forest, Pa inmates have access to this type of site?

The inmate profiles found on InmateAid are set up by the member/users of the site. InmateAid does not monitor, update or verify these profiles unless asked to do so. Inmates do not have access to the Internet and therefore are not going to be on the InmateAid website. This website is for YOU to use to remain in contact with them. If you need assistance getting his profile set-up, send us his name and we will create it for you.

Subject: Relationship issues

Hi do u think I'm a good girlfriend for standing by man in jail

It is not our place to determine whether you are a good girlfriend. You have to be at peace with your decision to stay. If you are going to ride it out until the end with himi, just know there are going to be some rough spots along the way. Be prepared and feel free to write back as often as possible over the coming months if you need questions answered.

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