You can file for and receive a divorce from an inmate, as long as the presiding judge does not hold it up - for reasons that might have to do with the incarceration. The inmate is NOT provided an attorney but will have to respond to the documents that are served to him in the prison. He can hire an outside attorney to file for him or do it himself (sometimes with the assistance of a paralegal inmate that helps...Read more
None of the choices are "the best", and he is going to take it hard no matter how you deliver it. Our advice is to get it over sooner rather than later so that he has time to heal. In person, if he is likely to make a scene this would be the least favorable. On the phone, you only have 15 minutes, and in a letter you can really think about what you want to say. Therefore, we think...Read more
My relationship is on rocks he says he write me but have received anything is he playing or is he true how do i know if need to let go n move on or do I fight??
You have to believe what you see with your eyes. You say it's on the rocks, incarceration is not a remedy for broken relationships. If he is writing and you are not getting the letters, then you might try calling his counselor or the mail room and inquire IF he is sending mail. If there are no letters, what is there to fight about...? Only you know your man, was he true to you before he went in, then we...Read more
try calling the facility and ask to speak to the chaplain
Currently I have a roll model that is facing a few months in jail and I wondered if it would be a appropriate or not to send a letter or if they would find it odd. What do you think I should do?
Your "roll model" is hurting now and probably a little embarrassed to hear from you. BUT, we are in favor of reaching out in times like these. If your instinct is to contact them, then follow that. Your sincerity and willingness to initiate communication is a great thing.
Fear is a big part of how every inmate deals with their time. Fear of losing support is real and it makes many inmates anxious as it is often tied to finanacial support. The anxiety leads to paranoia and before you know it, there are accusations and fights on the phone that will make both of you miserable. Since communication is limited, it's hard to keep the intimacy and feelings going strong without significant effort. The isolation that the inmate experiences...Read more
Of course you should be concerned and it is to be expected, from both your perspectives. He is wondering what you are doing, thinks the worst even if you have never given an inclination that you'd stray. It's natural, but it will take a Herculean effort on both of your parts to keep it going. Give him his space for a bit, stop peppering him with questions. He's in prison, he's getting punished - do not pile on with your...Read more
Thank you " ask an inmate" I'm going to write to my friend in Alaska and just wait and see , we had a good bond but I just can't give up on him thank you again
you are welcome!! good luck :)
no, inmates are entitled to privacy too
Being in a relationship with someone you can't actually BE in a relationship with is a maddening process that rarely makes it through the bid if it's more than a few years. The inmate has a vivid imagination of what you are (might) doing while he's locked up (even if you haven't even been tempted). That makes him unjustly angry. You're picturing other women communicating with him, even visiting. The trust between you deteriorates becasue of the lack of real...Read more